Introduction
Oral sex, also known as cunnilingus or fellatio, is a common and enjoyable sexual experience for many couples. However, it can also be a sensitive and vulnerable experience that requires open communication and mutual respect. In this article, we will explore the dos and don’ts of receiving oral sex, with a focus on communication, hygiene, consent, relaxation, and appreciation.
DOs
Communication
Clear and direct communication is crucial for a satisfying and enjoyable oral sex experience. Giving your partner specific instructions and feedback can help them understand what you like and what you don’t like. Use positive reinforcement to let them know when they’re doing something you enjoy. Show appreciation for their efforts, which will encourage them to continue pleasing you.
Personal hygiene
Maintaining good personal hygiene is important for any sexual activity, and oral sex is no exception. Wash your genitals thoroughly before engaging in oral sex. Keep your hands clean and avoid touching your anus or other body parts during the act. Trim and groom your pubic hair to make the experience comfortable for your partner.
Relaxation
Oral sex is meant to be a pleasurable experience, and relaxation is key to enjoying it fully. Find a comfortable position that allows you to relax and enjoy the sensations. Take deep breaths to help you relax and focus on the pleasure. Remember that it’s okay to take your time and enjoy the experience.
DON’Ts
Criticism
Avoid making negative comments or comparisons during oral sex. This can make your partner feel self-conscious or inadequate. Instead, focus on positive feedback and show your appreciation for their efforts. Make sure to express your feedback in a constructive and respectful way.
Forcefulness
Forceful behavior during oral sex can be a major turn-off and cause discomfort. Avoid being aggressive or forceful, and don’t pressure your partner into performing any sexual act they are not comfortable with. Respect their boundaries and take cues from their body language and verbal communication.
Skipping foreplay
Foreplay is an important part of any sexual experience, and oral sex is no exception. Take your time, savor the moment, and enjoy foreplay. Skipping foreplay can make the experience less pleasurable or even painful for your partner.
SAFETY
STI prevention
Oral sex can transmit sexually transmitted infections (STIs) like herpes, gonorrhea, and chlamydia. Use condoms and dental dams to reduce the risk of transmission. Make sure to get tested regularly for STIs, especially if you engage in sexual activity with multiple partners.
Protection
Using a dental dam or other barrier during oral sex is a good way to reduce the risk of transmission of STIs. Avoid contact with open wounds and make sure to use clean and unexpired products to minimize the risk of infection.
COMMON CONCERNS
Numbness
If you experience numbness or discomfort during oral sex, take a break and communicate with your partner. Change the method or position to make the experience more comfortable and enjoyable for both of you.
Gagging
If you or your partner experience gagging during oral sex, try communicating and changing positions to alleviate the discomfort. Focus on the sensations and find a position that works well for both of you.
Teeth sensitivity
If you or your partner experience teeth sensitivity during oral sex, try using your lips and tongue instead. Experiment with flavored lubricants or try breathing through your nose to reduce the sensation.
CONCLUSION
Communication, hygiene, consent, relaxation, and appreciation are the key ingredients for a satisfying and enjoyable oral sex experience. Remember to communicate clearly and respectfully with your partner, maintain good personal hygiene, respect your partner’s boundaries and preferences, and take your time to enjoy the experience.
RESOURCES
There are many resources available for those who want to learn more about STI prevention and sexual health. STI prevention resources like condoms and dental dams are available at most drugstores and online. Educational resources like articles, videos, and books can help you learn more about sexuality and sexual health. Community resources like support groups and clinics can provide you with information and resources to help you stay healthy and safe.
